You’ve been happy with your partner for a while now but something is starting to feel wrong, and weird.
It’s the last thing you want to believe but you suspect he might be cheating on you. How can you tell for sure without strapping a lie detector to him or hiring a private investigator?
Nothing wrong with wanting some privacy, but there’s a difference between that and him keeping all of his electronic devices on love lockdown. Never leaving his cell, always taking his phone into the other room to take a call, being unusually silent when receiving a text or call, or being especially secretive is jut one of many signs you have hit trouble in paradise.
This is your crash course to find out if he’s cheating.
He has a rapid change in weight or appearance.
When dating, or even married you get comfortable, like really comfortable. You’ll notice your chin may be turning into two chins, or your arms are a little flabbier than you thought.
Cheating men change physically. Their love handles disappear; their posture changes and suddenly you will notice his muscles coming back. It’s the body’soriginal means of preparing for dating…he’s readying himself to be attractive to others, not just you.
Cheating men start taking much better care of themselves and take a lot of pride in their appearance. He’s suddenly pressing his clothes, shaving daily and even showering daily when he didn’t before … especially when leaving the house without you.
He remembers things wrong or loses track of the details.
As he spends more time with both you and the other girl, the memories of his time spent with her and the memories of his time spent with you will start to get confusing to him, and he will mix them up. Schedules get crossed and he won’t beable to keep track of where he was on any given day.
The time he is spending with his mistress will soon camouflage with the time he is spending with you.
Often this is how men get caught. They simply get tangled up in their own lies and confusion and the whole affair untangles.
He has a drastic change in sexual appetite and style.
A sudden shift in what’s normal in bed without talking about wanting somethingnew is a bigwarning sign of cheating. Experiencing a huge rush of testosterone when being with someone new is normal, which would then demonstrate new confidence from your cheating man during sex.
Their egos will be growing daily as someone else is now giving them attention, and new sex. Different can be fun, but put someone you love before fun.
Notice his excuses.
Before, he always seemed ready to hang out, and now, his reasons for not being able to see you are becoming to constant. At first, you believed him when he said he had a stomach ache or was too tired to go out, but you’re starting to wonder if he’s really trying to tell you that he doesn’t want to spend time with you because he’s busy hanging out with some other girl.
He hides his financial history from you.
Most cheating men will need an untraceable way to pay for things for their new girl. This ranges from gifts, meals, hotels, trips, etc. When guys are cheating, they like to stay away from the norm. They will take trips with their mistress and they will eat out, often. This new girl will be wined and dined.
Reloadable credit cards, PayPal accounts, eBay purchases are all great ways to hide large or frequent transactions. Definitely investigate large, random transfers or cash withdrawals if you are worried.
My advice: don’t make accusations that you can’t back up.
If you are seriously suspicious let him know how you are feeling. Your partner should respect your feelings, and if you feel disrespected and stupid, maybe you should take a step back. I sense a major case of f*ckboy.